You showed up for everyone. You organized, you comforted, you did your best to hold things together. Now, the ceremonies are over. The calls have slowed. Everyone’s gone back to life. And you’re left with… something. This is where we’ll start.

What Our Work Together Looks Like

However tangled or heavy or confusing things feel right now — you’re exactly where you need to begin.  You don’t need to have the words for it yet. You don’t need to have done the reading. You don’t need to arrive with a plan.

Your only job is to show up. I’ll listen for what matters. the things you might be afraid to say out loud, the grief you’ve been minimizing, the weight you’ve been carrying for other people on top of your own. Together, we’ll make a little more space for all of it. Not to fix it. Not to hurry things along. But to let it move through you the way it’s been trying to.

What We’ll Tend To

Our time together will be rooted in David Kessler’s six needs of the grieving. These aren’t linear, entirely sequential, or steps for you to “do.” They’re more like doors that open when you’re ready. Just know I’ll be attending to them.

• To have your pain witnessed

• To express your feelings

• To release the burden of guilt

• To be free of old wounds

• To integrate the pain and the love

• To find meaning

What This Isn’t

I’m not going to give you a five-step plan for getting over your grief. There isn’t one. I’m not going to tell you to be grateful for what you still have, or that everything happens for a reason, or that time heals. You’ve probably heard all of that already, and it probably hasn’t helped. What I will do is take your grief as seriously as you feel it. I’ll believe you when you say it’s heavy. I’ll help you let it lighten as it’s ready.

The Bottom Line

Grief doesn’t have a finish line, and I won’t pretend it does. But there is a difference between being tossed around by your pain and learning to move with it. Between clenching against the wave and letting it carry you. You won’t go back to who you were before. But you can become someone who carries this — all of it, the pain and the love — with your hands open instead of fists clenched.